This month is when we all make our resolution lists and resolve to do everything on them. The word resolution means a “firm decision to do or not to do something” but it has another definition, as well. It also means the the action of solving a problem. A great way to know what you want to change in your life is to identify the things you see as roadblocks to living a life of joy and contentment. In other words, finding solutions to your problems. Once you list the things you want to change, you can think about ways to create that change. Until then, you’re probably just listing things you think you should be doing or not doing…and chances are many of them are based on other people’s ideas of what a great person or life should be. The best resolutions are the ones that allow you to dance to your own beat, not someone else’s.
Here are some ideas for identifying your personal beat:
- Know your value. Take time to list your good qualities. A good way to do this is to think about the things you value in others. See if you have those traits, too. If you do, praise yourself for them. If you don’t, add them to your resolution list and begin to work on making them your own habits. A good way to do this is to take a class or go to a retreat that enables you to be around people you admire and helps you to see yourself more clearly. I know one such retreat that does this and helps you break out of that monotony of your life and discover you again! Make yourself a priority and enroll in my retreat today!
- Let go of the expectations that others have for you. Remove them from your list. Think about the things you do that aren’t in line with who you want to be or the life you want to live. For instance, if you have always loved living in the city but you’re living in the suburbs because that’s where your partner loves being, then you need to find some way to fill the need you have for yourself. It doesn’t mean you can’t compromise and live in the suburbs. You just need to find ways to fulfill your “city” vibe. Maybe it’s as simple as resolving to go into the city once or twice a month.
- Embrace change. We grow every year and with growth comes change. Something we were into three years ago may not fulfill us now. Or, we may have given up something that we used to find fulfilling because it no longer fits into our life. Either way, it’s important to spend time to re-identify what makes our souls sing. For me, it’s creating new programs to empower women. But those programs change with my new knowledge and experience. My signature “Sense-ual Woman” program came from many years of dancing, teaching, and studying our five senses. I never could have designed it until I’d gone through my own personal changes. Check out what my program has to offer!
- Dancing to your own beat means giving up the need to do things just to fit in and doing the things you like even when they don’t fit in. So what if none of your friends tap dance while wearing clown suits! If you love doing it, that’s all that matters. When I started belly dancing, I also wanted to be a police officer. Belly Dancing wasn’t really seen as something that a police officer does. But I loved it! And guess what? Pretty soon, I wanted to dance more than I wanted to do anything else. I’m so glad that followed my heart and did something that didn’t fit in. Dancing led me to a more fulfilling life than I ever could have imagined. This is the perfect time to opt in to my first worldwide summit! The Courage to bring out your authentic real you, dance to your own beat, no matter whose music is playing! Watch over 20 exclusive interviews of amazing experts in their field and see how they had the courage to be themselves. Their advise and wisdom are invaluable! Hurry and get in, the summit start on January 16th! Opt in now!
Answer this question: If at the end of the year, you have accomplished one thing, what is it that would make the biggest difference to your happiness? You might be surprised at the answer. An example is thinking that making more money will make you happy when in reality, how you make money is what will truly give you joy. Really think about what makes you happy and then devise a plan to make these things a part of your life.
- Socrates famously declared that “The unexamined life is not worth living.” A great way to examine your life is to think about the things that haven’t worked so far and then reframe them into ideas that will work. For instance, if you keep getting yourself into bad relationships, try thinking about how you met your partners so far or what qualities they have in common. Then, think about the qualities that will fit your relationship needs better and about better ways to meet a new partner with those qualities. Often we’re getting the same results because we’re repeating the same actions. Change the actions, change the results. It’s as simple as that.
- Choose good mirrors. Surround yourself with people who will be honest with you about your good and bad habits and who will help you reach your personal goals, not the goals they have set for you. These people act as mirrors because they help you see who you really are and they accept and love you best when you are being true to yourself.
These are just some fun ideas for inspiration. How do you identify and dance to your personal beat? Please share your thoughts!
Until next time!
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